Personal positive experiences…
1. Take out a clean sheet of paper and a pen of your choice.
2. Divide the paper into eight sections: Courage, Kindness, Selflessness, Love, Sacrifice, Wisdom, Happiness, Determination.
3. Under each section write about positive personal experiences that come under that category.
4. You don’t have to limit yourself to one example for each, the more you can think of the better!
5. Keep the paper somewhere handy so that (a) you can read it frequently and (b) you can add to it whenever you fancy.
- I fought cervical cancer for four years, and I’ve hopefully won.
- I underwent two surgeries for the cancer.
- I underwent four biopsies.
- I am going public with Lulu Stark. I’m going to be courageous here and put my name out there. I am actually Tiffany. But, I prefer Tiff. Please keep calling me Lulu though. I like it. I think it represents something in me.
- In June 2011, I started As The Pendulum Swings, my first mental health blog.
- I co-founded A Canvas of the Minds, a community mental health blogging site.
- I supported Occupy Pittsburgh when they were camping in town.
- In 2006, I lived without basic utilities in a dilapidated house.
- I recently moved away from my hometown.
- I had the courage to finally break ties with my extended family and put my parents at a distance.
- I’ve finally accepted my son’s diagnosis of Pervasive Development Disorder.
- In 2009, I sought treatment for bipolar disorder.
- Before my surgery in 2011, I chose to live by my own hand.
- I take late night phone calls for friends in need.
- I used to volunteer for my family’s church.
- I am fiercely loyal to friends, even if they don’t deserve it.
- I occasionally give to charities, especially those for children.
- I taught music in a youth program for underprivileged children.
- I make it a point to comment on people’s blogs at least once a day.
- I encourage online friends to email me when they are having a hard time.
- I help my husband finish his work at home.
- I leave love notes for my husband.
- I once made a blanket for a child I was a nanny for.
- I was a summertime nanny for two children plus my own.
- I get up an hour and a half before my husband each day to get him off to work.
- I always do without for my child.
- I always make sure that my husband gets the big piece of chicken at dinner.
- I cook, although I don’t often feel like it.
- I take classes that my husband is very enthusiastic about me taking.
- I make sure my child’s needs come first.
- I am staying at home instead of working to take care of my son.
- I am working hard to get my son services for his special needs.
- I am always able to put my own stuff aside for a friend in crisis.
- Over the last year, I have put off numerous appointments in order to accommodate my husband’s climb up the career ladder. I still am.
- Sometimes, as a result of my husband’s work, I find that I end up being the sole parent for most days. I rarely ask for anything in return.
- I lay my husband’s clothes out every morning because he’s colorblind.
- I have forgone getting a new pair of glasses for two years because it’s not in the budget.
- Sometimes, I make my medicine stretch just a little longer so that I can see everyone else is taken care of first.
- I mentioned I help my husband finish his work at home. I do so unpaid.
- During Summer Semester 2011, I pushed a little girl around the wheelchair at the zoo. If you knew the Pittsburgh zoo, then you know it’s very hilly.
- I have never abandoned someone because they were “too much work”.
- I put everything I have into my son.
- One of the reasons we moved to the place we live in now is so we could take care of my husband’s family, all of whom are disabled now.
- I write prose to my husband. Sometimes, I stick cute notes in his work laptop.
- I will do anything to immediately soothe my husband’s panic attacks.
- I will hold my son for hours when he’s having an emotional day.
- I am always telling my husband wonderful things about himself.
- I am not hesitant to be affectionate with my husband, even when he is.
- I recently passed up a job offer to stay at home with my son.
- I have not pursued the last four credits of my Bachelors, because the money would come out of pocket.
- In the summer of 2011, I taught summer semester while having undiagnosed walking pneumonia for over a month. We needed the money.
- In 2010, I had to surrender my dog Nikki. She was too big for the house, setting off Beast’s allergies, and we didn’t have a big enough yard for her.
- In 2006, I dropped out of college to work. The man I was with at the time and I had some really wrecked finances.
- In 2006 and then again in 2009, I took a job in a commercial bakery when I had two different Associate’s Degrees. I was desperate for work.
- Becoming a mother is sacrifice in itself.
- I am holding off on having a second child for my husband’s sake. I may not be able to have children as I grow older, and I take the risk that the cancer will return.
- In 2012, I started Sunny with a Chance of Armageddon to help share my experience with others so they might not feel so alone.
- I regularly give advice to friends and family.
- Despite our rocky relationship, I counseled my mother while she had difficulty taking care of her own mother.
- I know that I can only believe none of what I hear and only half of what I see.
- Get me once, shame on you. Get me twice, shame on me.
- I realize that life is what happens when a person is busy making other plans.
- There are some things that I can help, and there are some things I cannot. It’s up to me to have the wisdom to determine which is which. I am pretty good at that at this point.
- I always remind others that you can’t change people.
- I find that I always remind others that happiness and health are more important than anything else. Money and duty sometimes have to take a backseat.
- In 2008, I took a honeymoon to my favorite beach, Myrtle Beach.
- Also in 2008, I gave birth to one of my sources of joy, my son, my Beast.
- Also in 2008, I married the man of my dreams. My other half, maybe my better half, Xan.
- My family takes regular long drives through the country.
- I adopted a kitten in 2011.
- In 2007, my long time best friend, Xan (my now husband), got into our romantic relationship. We had a whirlwind romance that ended up with us being married in less than a year.
- I’ve had five wonderful years with my husband.
- I have wonderful friends who would do anything for me.
- I’m now living in the nicest house I’ve ever lived in.
- I have so much land and I don’t live on a busy street anymore.
- I’m in the best shape of my life.
- I will finish my degree one day, and finish higher degrees.
- I will find a good therapist and get on the right medication.
- I will combat mental illness, and come out the other side better for it.
- I will continue to get in shape and stay in shape.
- I will belt up in Tang Soo Do.
- I will continue to keep fighting cancer, even if the doctors are sure that it’s gone.
- I will help my son catch up in his development.
- I will help my husband be the best father, husband, and employee he can be.
- I will never give up on myself, my goals, my dreams, and my friends and family.
- Exercises to build self-esteem: #3. Personal positive experiences (sunnywithachanceofarmageddon.wordpress.com)
- Exercises to build self-esteem: #3. Personal positive experiences (myjourneywithdepression.wordpress.com)
- Building positive self-esteem in our children (tina7serrano.wordpress.com)
- Exercises to Build Self Esteem: #2. Love your talents and gifts (sunnywithachanceofarmageddon.wordpress.com)
- How to Rebuild Your Self-Esteem (dr-carol.com)
- Building positive self-esteem (myjourneywithdepression.wordpress.com)
- Exercises to Build Self Esteem: #1. Pleasure and Happiness (myjourneywithdepression.wordpress.com)
- Self Esteem Activities (budiwibowos.wordpress.com)
- Disorder and the Internet : The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly (acanvasoftheminds.wordpress.com)
- The Cost of Mental Health (acanvasoftheminds.wordpress.com)
Send you negative thoughts to the naughty corner!
So far this week we have looked at what self-esteem is; the value we place on ourselves and how we see ourselves in general, what low self-esteem is; when we as individuals hold deep-seated negative beliefs about ourselves, and how we can work toward improving these beliefs through altering our perceptions of who we are.
First, by focussing on the things that bring us pleasure (rather than pain) and secondly, on how it isn’t narcissistic to love our individual gifts and talents.
Today, we look at our experiences.
As many people who suffer from low-esteem may relate to, I spend a lot of time living in the negative space of my life. All day, every day, I am constantly reminding myself of all the things I have done wrong; of when I let my friends down, of when I…
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